The beginning

I started working on my second book with the goal of being done by February 2017. But now as I dig into the writing process and start my research I feel like this insurmountable load of work is standing in front of me. Its like starting to dig a hole and realizing that to make it deep enough, you will have to dig all the way to China. Each step I take and small paragraph I write feels like drops in an infinite bucket. It can feel hopeless at times.

getting excited about getting started

Then the other day, I started training to learn kick boxing. With visions of kicks and punches and bad ass-ery in my head I went to my lesson. The instructor told me we wouldn’t do any of that. He said that in order to get good at kickboxing, I’d first need to build a strong foundation with foot work– just getting used to moving my feet and arms together. I could feel that same sense of hopelessness as I started. I felt pathetic flailing around just trying to make my feet and arms work in coordination. And then I reminded myself: Each process has a beginning. You don’t start out knowing everything or being the best at everything. You have to start somewhere.

I think all to often, people give up too soon. They feel like they are not making enough progress and decide it is not worth the effort. This is especially true in the fitness and health industry. People start a diet and exercise program with grandiose expectations of slimming down right away, when actually it takes time AND consistent action. When the results unfold slowly, people often lose motivation and return to their old habits.

But know this: Each drop of effort you put in the bucket, as small as that drop may seem, gradually helps fill it. You can’t expect great transformations to happen overnight. People who are successful know that success comes from putting in consistent effort over time.

Its really easy to look at a fitness model and think, “I wish I had a body like that.” But the truth is she works hard for that body: going to the gym everyday, preparing healthy meals in advance, fueling her body with good nutrition. If you did that consistently you would see results too. People want a quick fix, they want a gimmick. “Oh her secret to success is eating 9 grapefruits a day.” Reality doesn’t work like that. The secret to success is taking consistent action that moves you closer to your goals. I know that can feel frustrating, but stick with it and trust the process.

When you are at the beginning of your journey, don’t get discouraged. Know that this is just a stepping stone on the road to success. Know that as ridiculous as you might feel right now (as I did while kickboxing), one day you will feel confident and be able to guide someone else through that same awkward beginning. And most importantly don’t give up just because getting started is hard.

You’ve got this!!

XOXO

Valerie

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